Sure, everyone knows that being dumped is embarrassing, and a recent
study confirms this. What the study also confirms, though, is what
scores of women have been complaining about in bars and coffeeshops for
decades: women just can't win.
"We tested the hypothesis that
impressions of a person as a candidate for a romantic partner would
decrease after people learned that the target had been dumped by his or
her last partner," explain the Univeristy of Michigan-University of Pennsylvania team
publishing in Evolutionary Psychology. "Results supported this
hypothesis and revealed that people quickly change their opinions of
potential partners when they receive this information." The effect
increases when people are evaluating each other for long-term
relationships rather than brief flings. But here's the catch: people
also change their opinions of potential partners when the potential
partners reveal they
were the ones doing the dumping. Women are
more attracted to a man who reveals he rejected his last partner.
"However, while men's desire to have a sexual relationship with a
target was not influenced by her having rejected her last partner,
their desire to have a romantic relationship with her decreased
In plain English? Women think higher of a man
for being the one to end his last relationship. Men think less highly
of a woman for doing so. And both sexes--to a much greater degree, note
the researchers--are less interested in the other upon learning a
potential partner was on the receiving end of a rejection.
researchers don't connect the dots for you, but it's not that hard:
whether the woman is dumped or is the one dumping, she loses.
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