Dating Lessons from the New York Post
What if we all dated according to the "trends" spotted by the New York Post? 'Twould be an interesting relationship world indeed. And where would the paper itself fall in all of that?
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What if we all dated according to the "trends" spotted by the New York Post? 'Twould be an interesting relationship world indeed. And where would the paper itself fall in all of that?
The Rules, a dating instruction manual of yore by two ladies named Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider should, by now, have gone the way of the cave drawing or the horse and buggy, as a relic of times past. Instead it's been updated.
In Sunday's New York Times there's an article that combines things relationship with things semantic. What in the world are you supposed to call the man or woman with whom you've been living with for the past 20 years — your de facto spouse — when you're not actually, officially married, and never want to be?
There's a piece on the front page of The New York Times today that's inspiring lots of "dating is hell" commentary from around the Internet, because from this piece comes the "decidedly unromantic question" of our time: "What's your credit score?"
In his Salon piece, "I was a male spinster," Tim Gihring speaks to a feeling common to men and women of a certain age who haven't yet seen fit to do the proposal-and-ring thing in the time expected of them.
As many of us transition back to our sort-of normal post-hurricane lives, there is reflection upon what we learned, not just about natural disasters and helping others in a time of need, but also about hurricane weight gain and ... hurricane love.
Can you, if you are a Democrat, even, perhaps, not an actively campaigning one, but one who would certainly never deign to vote for Mitt Romney, consider in good faith a Republican as a possible suitor? Can you, if you are a Republican, ever love someone who believes in the presidency of Barack Obama?
Could ladies be as cheating-prone as their husbands? Could this be because of "gender equality"? There's some recent research indicating that "unfaithfulness among wives may be approaching that of husbands."
It's the third day of coverage in the New York Post for Larry Greenfield, the multi-millionaire who said that the six matchmaker services to whom he'd paid $65,000 hadn't done a good enough job in the last 12 years and 250 women to set him up with the girl of his dreams.
This week's love lesson comes by way of the New York Post, where much ink has been dedicated to the relationship travails of Larry Greenfield, 47, a retired Long Island securities trader who has spent more than $65,000 on six different matchmaking services in 12 years.
On Friday the news of a certain study was making the Internet rounds, pleasing an array of people who seemed to take it as support that all this "feminism" and "gender equality" stuff was a bunch of bunk, that women should really be in the kitchen, doing housework, if they expected their marriages to remain marriages and not head toward divorce post-haste.
Ah, what is a freelancer to do about love, given all the working from home alone in a state of barely dressed disarray he or she tends to do—meaning that said freelancer doesn't see anyone other than, maybe, a food delivery person or his or her own cat, on a regular basis? The answer is coffee.
Online dating is now so commonplace that we need scientific research to remind us that, oh yes, it's not that as a form of dating it's any better at helping you find your soulmate (or just a likely companion) than the traditional varieties. What's wrong with an old-fashioned sign?
Someday, we'll all be reading online, you'd imagine, but for now we have an Internet overly populated by youngs, particularly when it comes to blogging and revealing the ins and outs of their dating lives and oft TMI sexual exploits.
If you are one of those people who really, really hates it when your loved ones have to leave, whether for weeks or days or minutes,, you may be interested in a piece in today's Wall Street Journal that deals with the topic of separation anxiety in adults.
People, people, people. We realize some of you are very eager to wed one another, and that you want to do it in the right way. You know, by asking in the most visible and obvious fashion that shows the world how much you really do care. While this is a lovely gesture, you should stop.
Yesterday brought us a rumor (via The New York Post) that Beverly Hills 90210's Kelly and Dylan, or Jennie Garth and Luke Perry, might actually be an item IRL. We can dream! While we're dreaming, we're going to dream big. Here are the other TV couples we want to see to forever and ever, onscreen or off.
Your best-kept dating secrets are not so secret after all. According to Ellen McLaughlin's recent sociological study in the New York Post, the waitstaff and bartenders and managers at any number of New York City restaurants and bars (and then some) are on to your techniques.
Two things that might not go together like peas and carrots: Marriage and the Olympics.
How do you gauge each of the physical variations on saying hello that you might participate in with your variety of friend groups, and do the proper thing in return?
Allegedly, the latest "technique" demonstrated by women seeking men to date is to hop onto commuter trains and head for more fertile ground in the land of the cul-de-sac.
Over the weekend The New York Times discussed a matter of contemporary lifestyle that pretty much anyone can relate to: Friendship. Specifically, how hard is it to make friends as an adult?
The New York Post is riding the residual waves of shock generated by Mayor Bloomberg's recent challenge to city developers to create "micro-apartments," finding a couple who live in something even smaller.
The couple that many would say never should have been is no longer. John Edwards and Rielle Hunter are splitsville.
Everything is now sexualized and objectified. We can blame the Internet, or we can blame ourselves.
The Wall Street Journal reveals what you already knew: People in relationships sometimes need time alone to do their own things away from the prying gaze of their significant other.
Can a dating show treat women fairly without belittling them or resorting to stereotypes? I'd like to see it.
We're all attachment daters on some level. That's what dating is: Attaching, and detaching, and sometimes attaching again. You're probably not as bad as the "Overly Attached Girlfriend" meme, but chances are, you show some signs of attachment to whomever you are dating.
Guys, we don't need special apps for couples. Couples and singletons can coexist on the same social networks as long as we all live by a few ground rules.
Last week, the dating "mistake" that had the Internet cluck-clucking in joyful schadenfreude was the "creepy" survey sent by a "24-year-old finance guy," known as Mike, to one of his dates. Mike has gotten in touch to share his side of the story.
We love to talk about relationships, good and bad, and probably always will. Most especially, we love it when we think people are doing them wrong.
What to Expect When You're Expecting, a movie with an ensemble cast of celebrities each depicting different versions of mommy-and-daddyhood, comes out in theaters Friday. So, this is a date movie, right?
According to The New York Times, the latest baby trend appears to be wanna-be grandparents paying to freeze their daughters' eggs so that they can, down the road, indeed become grandparents. Should we be concerned?
Love is hard. Romantic movies make it harder.
Poor misguided "dating spreadsheet guy" of last week has another moment in the New York Post, this time from Andrea Peyser, our new favorite dating columnist, who's not only full of advice but also so effervescently positive.
Thursday we defended our hapless romantic spreadsheet user—a man who used an Excel document to "keep track of" dates he met on Match.com. Now, we hear from an actual human woman who interacted with him online.
"Dating spreadsheet guy" is the romantic anti-hero, someone who hopes to manipulate love (in Excel!), someone who needs to "keep track" of dates as if they were possessions, someone who judges on paper.
Just because more people are living alone by choice doesn't mean they don't have their share of problems. Add to that possible trouble: Bank accounts. In particular, those privacy questions you're supposed to answer in order to access your account.
Living alone just keeps getting more popular, with even committed couples deciding to live by themselves—albeit maybe in houses right next door to each other. We explore the phenomenon.
A quarter of the cover of The New York Post is devoted to the kind of story that pops up regularly as a warning screed, or perhaps a reminder, to the women of New York.
Even though so many people are meeting each other and forming relationships online that your grandma can't even really look at you funny for it (maybe she's doing it herself), a lot of us are doing it wrong. That's where Christine Hooker, professional online dating consultant, comes in.
Discovered: Venus has bad weather, women like men to feel their pain, how much water the Earth has lost, cancerless super mice, and how to change your DNA.
With fewer adults deciding to marry than ever in American history, it's not hard to wonder what a post-marriage society would look like—and are we on our way there already?
Happy Leap Day. Today is a day that comes around only once every four years, and traditionally, because it was so shocking to imagine a woman ever proposing to a man, today would have been the day for that sort of funny business.
What's missing in your birth control technique? Is it, maybe, a location-based app?
Right now in the most of the developed world, it could be argued, women are considered about as "equal" to men as they have ever been. Yet there are deep, abiding problems that we're still working through.
We're starting to dance around a reality in which marriage is no longer for everyone. What's important is the question of why that's the case, and what happens next.
Is flirting the old-fashioned way for chumps? We enlisted help from Beth Griffenhagen, author of Haiku for the Single Girl, to test out a few of the new flirting apps on her recent evenings about town. Here's what she found.
Science knows how to identify a liar (big hint: someone who keeps harping on his or her own honesty). So it makes sense, in our online-dating-filled modern lifestyle, that science would also figure out how to identify an online dater who is not being completely above board.
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